Dressing Modestly Isn’t Easy! Or Is It?

by Jen

By Jenna Kim Jones

Dressing immodestly has a lot more cons than you might think…

At times, dressing modestly can feel quite boring. And quite inhibiting. And irritating. Not to mention dumpy. And ugly. And… understand what I’m saying? How many sweaters can a girl own? How many extra long t-shirts and capris can a young woman stand to wear?

Dressing modestly can feel stifling but it doesn’t have to be. Sometimes it seems like it would be easier to dress immodestly. Stop. Before you ever slip into that kind of thought, I am here to prove mini skirt designers wrong. It may be hard to feel cute and hip in modest clothing, but dressing immodestly has a lot more cons than you might think.

Modest clothing can help girls avoid embarrassing situations.

I have several guy friends who have expressed their distaste for girls who wear low-ride pants. They have been forced to sit behind such girls in a classroom or at church or at a restaurant. A young woman guilty of this may wear pants that show her underwear and worse her lack of underwear and her, I can’t believe I’m typing this, plumber’s crack. Girls, we should NEVER have a plumber’s crack. That is reserved for overweight middle-aged men with large guts.

Low ride pants are just too low. But there is something much higher that I might argue is worse: the mini-mini skirt. I say mini-mini because I think mini skirts are actually shorter than they were a few years ago. I don’t have the body for mini-mini skirts like the ones from Abercrombie and Fitch so they have NEVER been a temptation but I’ve seen way too many mini skirts on girls who should not be wearing them. Heck, no one should wear them. Ever ride up an escalator behind a girl in a mini skirt? I feel sorry for you. The view isn’t very appetizing. Girls, don’t give free shows at the shopping mall. Put on a skirt longer than the length of my hand. Please? It’s just embarrassing.

This last embarrassing experience with immodest clothing didn’t happen to me but it was so mortifying, I couldn’t help but feel sorry for the girl. She was at a pool party with her friends. They were having a cannon ball competition and whoever could make the biggest splash was proclaimed the winner. This poor girl was the last to jump in. She did more than make a big splash. After landing in the water, her swimsuit top was the first to reach the surface. She covered herself as much as she could, grabbed her suit, and ran inside but only after everyone had seen more than they ever should. Had she been wearing a more modest swimsuit, she could have avoided this situation. Moral of the story? Don’t do a cannon ball in a bikini? NO! Don’t wear bikinis. They don’t stay put and most of them look trashy. Consider yourself warned.

Many immodest tops and dresses require girls to go braless.

Do you know how important bras are? Now I know that there are bras with crazy straps or no straps and cups that you tape or glue on but those bras usually don’t give you the support you need. And without that much needed support, can you spell S-A-G-G-Y? Bras can be incredibly uncomfortable. That is why is it important to invest in quality, well-fitted bras. Get measured and spend a few extra dollars. It is worth it.

It is simple girls; wear clothes that require a bra.

The more skin you show, the bigger you look.

Clothes are flattering. Clothes hide parts of the body that shouldn’t be exposed. Too few clothes, unless you are a size nothing, can make you look…fat. I said it and I’m sticking to it. Come on girls, we don’t want to look fat. We want to look like we fit into our clothes. Immodest clothing often makes a girl look like she might be exploding out of them. Clothes can and should make a statement. But large and in charge is probably not the impression a young woman would like to make.

Unfortunately, the role models for young women are celebrities who spend the majority of their lives working on their bodies. They have time and money, plastic surgeons and eating disorders. Because they are negative sizes, they look a little better in shorts and a halter than say, the average size 8 American girl.

Remember, the more you wear, the skinnier you look. Unless of course you are wearing giant sweatpants and sweatshirts. In that case you just need a little fashion 911.

Ever heard the phrase, “you are what you eat?”

Unfortunately, the same goes with clothing. You are what you wear. Or at least, people might assume you are what you wear because we are all guilty of, and I’m about to use another cliché, judging a book by its cover. The clothing a young woman wears leaves a lasting impression on the people who have to look at her. This is especially true in terms of guys. It is hard for a nice young man to respect a sweet young girl who is wearing a tube top and mini-mini skirt. She could be the nicest thing but her clothes tell a different story.

And really girls, should we be putting those kinds of thoughts into a young man’s brain? I don’t think so!

Don’t be a victim of immodest clothing.

Do you see my point? Dressing modestly seems a little easier now, don’t you think? Immodest fashion is bad news. It isn’t easier to wear unless you like to show your stuff, starvation diets, and mean judgments thrust upon you. If you want to live life like that, you need more than a makeover. You need therapy!

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Anonymous September 20, 2007 at 2:43 pm

this article is excellent! I mean, it really spells the truth about immodest clothes. granted it’s hard to find modest clothes but doesn’t it just make life easier if you don’t have to worry if someone is looking where they shouldn’t?


Bilaeva September 21, 2007 at 8:12 am

I completely agree with the first comment! And it’s very true what you say about the more skin and body you show off with skimpy clothing, the more of you there appears… made me laugh as well! and also on the flip side, if you’re a skinnier girl you often show off bits that look a little too skinny.. i wore a lower cut than usual shirt the other day and caught a glimpse of some bones that I don’t think I really want others seeing… Modest clothing is definitely the way to go!


madam September 21, 2007 at 10:10 am

I’ve been waiting for an article like this. You tell the truth! Usually, I read articles that are the complete opposite of this…they teach you tricks on how to get away with wearing skimpy clothes even if you’re a little “out of shape.” There’s no better way for me to feel self-concious all night then to go out dressed like a hussie…and there’s no better way for me to feel relaxed then to wear something modest…so thanks for the reassurance!


tandazwa September 25, 2007 at 6:06 am

Well I know for sure that modesty is very hot and attractive!!! A guy in our YSA class said that he and his friends call an immodest gal “a please call me” you see guys do not respect a young woman who does not respect herself. doesn’t it feel good when you look good and don’t have to worry about what part of your body is showing and hanging out? Modesty is very beautifull!!!


Anonymous September 30, 2007 at 6:24 pm

If you dress in skimmy clothes then to put it frankly you look like a tramp. Also you have to worry about how much is showing.


Anonymous October 7, 2007 at 7:03 am

Guys, especially the ones looking to settle down, really do judge you by your clothes. I used to be a bartender, and thus would hear all the comments from the men in the restaurant. The girls wearing skimpy clothes always had lewed comments made about them, where as the women dressed respectfully yet fashionably, were treated as goddesses.


sodapops October 24, 2007 at 10:47 pm

I loved the photoshoots! and the clothes were great! I really liked that green dress…and if the model comes from an lds mission in spain, thats even better!
Felicidades, es uno de los blogs que visitaria cada día, la moda aqui es vestise como las modelos salen en los escaparates y eso a mi no me va.
great job with the photos and makeup Lynn!congrats!


Anonymous October 26, 2007 at 1:23 pm

So true…I am so into modesty!!!


Anonymous March 5, 2008 at 1:55 pm

I loved this article! I’ll definetly translate it to Portuguese and show it to the girls at church. Dani from Brazil


Anonymous May 15, 2008 at 5:35 pm

i think this is reallt judgemental. i mean yeah modest is hottest but some people dont know any better and i dont think its very christ like to be making fun of them. saying people look like tramps because they want to look nice isnt a very good christian attitude. try telling people, yeah you look good in that but i think your worth more and look so much better in this (modest item) how are we suppose to spread love if we do judge a book by its cover?

rant over

this site is really good for clothes its hard to find modest clothes in britian but at least its cold enough to wear millions of layers! 😀


Khadijah April 17, 2011 at 7:26 am

Modesty is great, and I do it, even covering my hair, because I am Muslim, but I'm talking to LDS! Wow, how weird is that? However, I also think that modesty is a two edged sword, and for some men, my being covered just increases their attraction to women. I am not gonna stop because it doesn't always get the results we want, but there is more to it than just covering.


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