Total Body (Image) Makeover: The Key to Lasting Self-Confidence in Dating and Beyond

As promised, here's a slightly shorter recorded version of the presentation I did for the Dating Conference at BYU. -Jen







For a more detailed written version of this talk, click here.

To see the other Dating Conference presentations, visit http://wsr.byu.edu/content/past-conferences

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Dating Conference at BYU - What's Your Question?

Hi, it's Jen. I want to let you know I'll be speaking at a Dating Conference at BYU on Oct. 15th. '09. My presentation is titled:

Total Body (Image) Makeover in Under an Hour! The Key to Lasting Self Confidence in Dating

The conference is free and runs from 10am to 5pm. I'll be speaking at 2:00 so if you live in the area you're invited to come (many of the presentations will be helpful even if you're married). If you can't attend there will be video & transcripts of the conference posted online.

As I write on this issue, I want to get a better idea of what's on your mind...

SO MY QUESTION FOR YOU IS: What's your most pressing concern or question relating to body image, dating or self-confidence????

Please leave your comment by clicking the link after this post and I'll do my best to address your question or concern in my presentation. Thanks for your help! -Jen

Dating Conference at BYU - Oct 15, 2009 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM
Location: 3380 WSC ("Little Theater")
FREE!
Brought to you by Women’s Services & Resources! Come for the whole day or just for a few.

10:00 - The Art of Flirting (Lauren Barnes, Carly Larsen & Katie Nelson)

11:00 - Dating in the Middle: Finding Balance in a World of Dating Extremes (Jason Carroll, Ph.D.)

12:00 - Beyond Dinner and a Movie: New Dating Ideas (Benton Lyons)

1:00 - Taking the Pits Out of Your Dates (Brad Wilcox, Ph.D.)

2:00 - Total Body (Image) Makeover in Under an Hour! The Key to Lasting Self Confidence in Dating (Jennifer Loch)

3:00 - He Said / She Said: Improving Your Communication Skills with the Opposite Sex (Michael Adams, Ph.D.)

4:00 - Surfing For Love: Tips for Online Dating (Debra Theobald McClendon, Ph.D. & Richard McClendon, Ph.D.)

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Service on "Singles Awareness Day"

By Michelle T.

Valentine's Day, also known as Singles Awareness Day or SAD by my single friends and I, is unfortunately seen as a negative. It’s a love-hate holiday; you love it if you are in a relationship and hate it if you’re not. For those of us who do find ourselves dateless, even if your significant other is just out of town, the 14th of February can really be a great time to focus on others. Service, anyone? There are many widows or elderly single woman around who would love to be visited on this day.

It is so easy to be down on ourselves asking questions like what is wrong with me? Why am I single? Why did so and so and I break up? The truth is things don't always work out as we imagined they would. There is this picture of how we want our life to be like when are 18, 20, 25, etc. These ideal lives are rarely the reality because it would just be too easy for everything to always fall into place. I am a single young adult, who imagined that I would have a husband and at least a kid by the time I reached my mid-twenties, but I’m not and don’t have many prospects for the near future (that made me feel like I was in a Jane Austen novel).

One thing I have learned is we choose to be happy or sad. Certain situations may lean us towards one feeling or another, but ultimately we choose who we are and how we react in this life.

It’s hard to be service orientated on SAD, because we tend to want to eat junk food with roommates/friends that are also single or perhaps crazily go out to dinner with a bunch of girls and ignore the cozy couple at the next table. Or maybe you feel like having a "woe is me" party.

If you find yourself single this Valentine's Day, as I plan to, may I suggest getting out of your comfort zone and cheering up an elderly woman? Or planning a get together with other singles to lift their spirits? Or both? It benefits all involved. If you do something nice for someone, treat yourself too. New clothes, cookies, and chocolate can be a welcomed treat (and you know exactly what you like).

Michelle T., BA English

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Chocolate and a Makeover

By Michelle T.

Get your friendly neighborhood MaryKay lady to help you out on Valentine’s Day. Or another professional like MaryKay. There are many companies which come and give free samples of makeup and lotions, etc. and can find the matches for skin tone, and eye shadow, etc. For this Valentine’s Day, on or around it, be a host for a makeover party and bring some chocolate too and/or have your guests bring along their favorite chocolate item (or other snack) to the party and have a girl’s night in. Get pampered and eat candy this Valentine’s Day. Be surprised at how nice it is get together and get a makeover (and the chocolate is a bonus).

Michelle T., BA English

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