What’s the Motive?

by Jen

By Sharon Neville

Have you ever wondered why people wear immodest clothing? Well it’s usually because they want to be popular and show off skin. Once they get used to showing off a little skin then they show off a little more and a little more. When people resort to being immodest it usually means they don’t get the attention that they want so they’re looking for other means.

My whole life I’ve been LDS and I’ve seen people wearing shirts that are a little low, shirts that don’t cover their stomachs, and mini skirts that are too high. Now in this day and age there are still people who are LDS and wear immodest clothing that isn’t uplifting to the Lord. Everybody needs to stay away from that harmful source of sin. There are even simple things you can do if you’re willing to put in that extra effort.

All of us need to be as far away from the border line in wearing immodest clothes as possible. People say to themselves “Oh, if I just pull down my skirt then it’ll be fine”. Then they get used to saying that to themselves and then they don’t seem to care about it.

If we are wearing longer skirts and longer shirts then we don’t even have to worry about being immodest because we always know in the back of our minds that we are keeping the Lord’s commandments and listening to the prophets and what they’ve been saying about modesty. We should do it not only because of church standards but also for ourselves. People will respect us more if we respect our own bodies. The first step we should take is to go through our closets and throw out everything that we know the Lord wouldn’t approve of!

Sharon Neville lives in North Salt Lake, UT and is going to school while living at home. She is the youngest of 7 children. She likes to scrapbook and use the computer.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Anonymous February 24, 2006 at 5:44 pm

Sharon, You Rock!!!

I am very Proud to be your Brother!


Anonymous February 24, 2006 at 5:47 pm

It’s really good to know that there are girls out there that have the right standards and are trying to improve themselves.


Cassie February 26, 2006 at 1:28 pm

I agree. You know that even if you are not a “big” girl – you have to choose an extra large size so that it covers your back and stomach.


Anonymous March 28, 2006 at 6:18 pm

…and if you are a “big” girl, like me you almot have to buy mens sizes so your covered up


superman86 April 5, 2006 at 7:32 am

I think it also depends in what kind of person we are looking for.
If a girl wants an LDS guy with high standards, she should dress modestly.
A guy who keeps the commandments and respects women is gonna look for a girl who dresses modestly.
We can not ask for someone modest if we are not modest ourselves.


Anonymous July 20, 2006 at 6:43 am

We liked the whole idea so much, you have a LINK on our pages.


Keep up the great work.


Anonymous October 16, 2006 at 1:46 pm

I wish that I was some where else. Sometimes even if people are LDS they won’t keep their modesty. I live in Nevada and sometimes Utah sounds better than here. But I’m proud to say that the guys here do respect me because I won’t bend just a little in the direction of immodesty. I’m sorry but I’ll tell you this when you’re immodest you have a stronger impulse to do wrong then right. I think I’ll talk to my Young Women leaders and see if we can do a modest fashion show. Especially for the girls here. Thanks for the great advise.


Anonymous February 15, 2007 at 10:17 am

With modesty be careful of the “behind the scenes” areas. Your shirt may look modest when you look in the mirror, but when you bend over is it still considered modest from the front and the back? Can you lift your arms in the air and not have your stomach show? Going the extra mile to insure modesty not only helps you stay on track, but allows you to be more free, never worrying if something is showing. Keep up the good work!


Anonymous January 26, 2008 at 3:34 pm

Here’s where you lose a lot of credibility as a writer –

“I’ve been LDS my whole life…” and saying things like “girls who dress immodestly just want to be popular”. Who doesn’t want to be popular and fit in? Why must we as LDS women adopt this attitude of rejecting anything mainstream and widely accepted. I agree that there are many things that people shouldn’t wear, but when you use such a condescending attitude, you are never going to get anyone to change their ways. They are only going to resent you and call you preachy like I am doing. I really can’t stand this whole “band together against the evils of the world” attitude. Sure there’s bad stuff out there, but if you are a strong individual, you know you can stay afloat and still experience the many wonderful things this life has to offer without being so darn afraid of it all. End of rant.


Anonymous February 7, 2008 at 8:13 pm

Wow, This is really nice! Thank you so much for making my life just that much easier! Thanks a ton!!


devie triadi June 10, 2008 at 7:05 pm

that’s a very fair thinking you have. i love it. yes, i couldnt agree more thatn that…we should leave or at least stay away from everything that could harm our faith…acting show off could be included as one…keep rising the modest lifestyle you… 🙂


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