This is an awesome Catholic guy named Jason Evert talking about why modesty is important from a guy’s point of view. Very insightful. Check out his other videos too– this guy rocks! -Jen
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Great clip by Jason. So refreshing to hear a guy talking so respectfully about women like that.
Hmmmm…. something with this video clip didn’t sit very well with me. I have thought so much about modesty and certainly have a strong belief in modesty. When women are taught that they need to be modest because of the effect immodesty has on men, I feel like it unnecessarily places the responsibility of a man’s behavior on women. It sends the message that men are unable to control themselves. It sends the message that men cannot be trusted and they cannot channel their sexual feelings. It sends the message to men that they no longer need to take responsibility for that which is rightfully theirs. It creates distrust and portrays men as dangerous. For example, it makes me feel like I am dressing modestly to be loved, as Jason said, but that my significant other may still be unable to control his eyes from lusting after another girl who doesn’t feel strongly about modesty. With this mindset, it becomes very difficult to maintain a testimony about modesty because of the conflict it creates in your relationship and the competition you feel you must fight with the world. Instead, I believe it is important that all women come to understand that modesty should be something a young woman does for herself and for God to show respect for this precious body/gift we have been given. And men, should be loaded with hope that control is possible. They need to hear about the importance of modesty as much or MORE than women do so that they can begin to transform their natural man into a Godly man that not only appreciates a woman who dresses modestly because of the depth he can love her, but also be able to control and feel sorrow for the woman who is willing to sell her body for such a small price. Just some quick thoughts… I hope they make sense.
I agree that men have responsibility for their thoughts, and so does Jason. But he isn’t talking to the men here. He’s giving girls insight into the way men think for just another reason to dress modestly. And I think it’s something girls need to know. See his other videos and you’ll see what he has to say to the guys.
Thanks for your reply Jen! And, I must say that I appreciate Jason for being willing to talk about the importance of modesty. I didn’t mean to sound negative or abrasive – and I completely agree that most women who dress immodestly have absolutely NO intention of producing impure thoughts in men, and are unaware that they are even doing that… they often times just want to feel cute. And I think it is absolutely important to understand how different men are wired from us. Anyway, I obviously have thought about this topic way too much for it all to be expressed completely in one blog comment. I hope that readers just take my message as an addition to Jason’s comments… the other half of the story. We’re all in this together!
Hi Melanie, thanks for clarifying! Thanks for your comments.
Wow Thats true Thats a good clip
I just read the first comment, while it was a well put message is not about putting the responsibility on men, but about taking responsibility for team work. We as men and women who share many worlds: dating, school, church, marriage, parenting ——we need to be aware of those people who share this worlds with us and who’s only objective is to destroy it.
It is so important to understand how men an women think. It is something I still struggle with as an adult. I like this and wish all girls could see it. It could make a huge difference in their perspective. We dress for other women. How true is that.
Very articulate, honest, insightful comments. He seems pretty young – early twenties maybe? But has great depth and maturity for such a young age. Well said, Jason!
Hi! I thought you might be interested in sharing a fun music video my family and I made about modesty. Here is the link to the video: http://youtu.be/UXzWNQT1cJk . My husband and some friends wrote the song as a means to communicating the sensitive subject of modesty to a show choir at the University of Utah's Institute of Religion some years ago. It was a big hit and we feel like it might help young women to get the message. Thanks, enjoy!
Brittany